God has a very specific plan just for men. God’s plan is what He created you specifically to be, how He wants to fully develop you into someone that brings honor to Him, someone that puts Him first in all things. God created you with something very special in mind, and once you arrive at the destiny God has for you, His perfect order will flood your home.
Why is it important to have peace at home? Whatever is controlling your home, owns your future. Greed in the world means that greed is saturating our homes. Murder in the streets means that murder is saturating our homes. Drugs on the streets means that drugs are saturating our homes. Do you get the idea of what I’m saying here? Whatever society is struggling with, you need to get under control at your house through the power of Jesus Christ.
Your family is one of your most precious assets. God places a high premium on the value found inside the walls of your home. Why? The family represents Christ’s relationship with the Church, how God passes along generational blessings. The role of the father is immensely important within the family structure. If your father didn’t treat you with kindness or pray blessings over you, today is your lucky day! You can break that chain and start speaking good things over your children. It all starts with you!
If the family structure is formed around the spiritual authority of the family, you can see that the buck stops with you, partner! This is why it is so important to find God’s will for your own life, so you can lead your family members into God’s divine blessing. When you follow God’s plan, the blessings will overtake your home like never before. So, how can you become this great spiritual authority?
The Bible says to deny yourself. Luke 9:23 says, “Then He said to them all, “If anyone desires to come after Me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross daily, and follow Me.”
This means you deny yourself, crucify your inner man, your strong will, your own desires of the flesh. Crucify your selfish nature that goes against God’s plan for your life and discover the great things God has in store for you. This is God’s plan for the man of the house. He wants you to be the leader, the one to bring blessing and prosperity upon your home.
Ephesians 5:25-27 says, “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish.”
Love your wife as Christ loved the church. This means if you are not submitted to the Lordship of Jesus Christ, you can’t expect your wife to submit to you. Your wife wants to follow a leader, not a parked car. The head of every man is Christ. When Christ becomes the Lord and ruler of your life, your wife will be excited about following you.
Jesus is looking for leaders with a servant’s heart. In the prayer garden of Cornerstone Church, we have a beautiful bronze statue called the Divine Servant. This statue depicts Jesus washing Peter’s feet, and is a great reminder for all of us that if the King of Kings and Lord of Lords can lower himself to wash someone’s dirty, stinky feet, then we should be able to volunteer at church when called upon to perform a lackluster activity with little to no recognition. Jesus is not looking for people who need plaques and prizes. He is looking for someone who will see the smallest need and go the longest mile to meet it.
Fathers, being the servant in your home means being in control of yourself to the point that you are willing to submit to the needs of your family members. This doesn’t mean you jump through hoops to meet their greeds, it means you set a Godly example and do whatever it takes to meet their needs.
What are you doing to show your wife you love her? Are you willing to do what it takes to meet her needs? Biblical love requires sacrifice. Loving your wife is different than enjoying your wife. You might enjoy the fact that she is a gourmet cook, but how do you show her Christ’s love? Do you go out of your way to show her that she is a highly-valued treasure in your life?
Husbands need to show their wives how much they love them on a regular basis, not just on their birthday or during the holiday season. No man is too macho that a little affection will take away their man card. The Bible says to cast your cares upon the Lord (Psalm 55:2). Your wife needs to be able to cast her cares upon you and rest assured that you will carry that burden for her.
Your wife should go to bed each night, assured that there is no other man on the planet that can do for her what you can do, that can help fulfill her own divine destiny as the secondin- command at your house. Shower your wife with loving kindness. The Bible says that God’s loving kindness is better than life (Psalm 63:3). The loving kindness you share with your wife needs to be the best thing in her life. Let her know that you love and care for her above all else.
Ephesians 5:27 says, “…that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish.”
What does not having a spot mean in my marriage? A spot is an outside stain, like the barbeque sandwich you dropped on your shirt at your company picnic. When you love your wife above others, there is no room for defilement or outward stains. Nothing can defile that holy union.
What does a wrinkle mean? Wrinkles are the result of internal stress. When you love your wife with a sanctifying love, you relieve her internal stress. You carry those things which concern her most. She no longer has to carry those worries for herself because she knows that you are already taking care of them. This is Christ’s picture of sacrificial love that can cleanse and purify your home, making your dwelling a place of joy unspeakable.
What is God’s picture of love for us? 1 Corinthians 13:3-8 says, “And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, and though I give my body to be burned, but have not love, it profits me nothing. Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails…”
Love never fails. Jesus hanging on the cross was the perfect portrait of God’s love for us. He loved us so much that He gave His only son to die for us (John 3:16). He has a perfect plan carved out, custom-made just for you. Step up and be the man, the husband, the father He has called you to be. Act like the king of your home that serves the King of Kings, so that when the trumpet sounds you can present yourself before him without spot or wrinkle.
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